woman you know how she feels about her body—no matter what her weight, and get
ready for an earful. Odds are, she'll launch into a laundry list of what she
doesn't like about her looks. For some the big problem is the tummy pooch from
her second pregnancy. They say it's been
two years and the bulge still don’t go
away. "My belly is so embarrassing,It makes me feel sloppy and
uncomfortable with myself." Sometimes they rather just stay home in baggy sweats than go
out. And their self-consciousness is also taking a toll in the bedroom.
"It's very hard for me to feel at ease getting intimate with my husband
because of how I look," they admit.
Whether it's occasional or
constant, nearly every woman struggles with the way she feels about her body. A
Cornell University study found that 87% of normal-weight women wish they were a
size smaller. The vast majority of women have what's callednormative discontent—dissatisfaction
with the size and or shape of their
bodies, even if it's just a wish for flatter abs or a rounder butt.
In fact, tummy, hips and thighs
top our most-hated list—and that's true whether we're 25 or 65, according to
research published in the journalThe New School Psychology
is on that list of dislikes? Everything from the bump on your nose to your size
thing all these complaints have in common: They can do a real number on your
self-esteem. When you hate such an integral part of who you are, it can have a
profound effect on your confidence, even leading to depression and eating
disorders. In effect, you start to believe what you think you see in the mirror.
You begin to like yourself less, which makes you feel uncomfortable in social
situations, ill at ease sexually and a lot less assertive.